A close match can leave a wrestler excited, frustrated, or both. Those feelings are part of competition. Representing the Bruins well means choosing what to do next—with an opponent, an official, or a teammate.

Compete hard. Treat people well.

Give your opponent your full effort. Keep the comments about the wrestling, and leave out the taunting. When the match ends, acknowledge the other wrestler and listen to your coach. Let coaches handle questions about calls.

A win is worth celebrating. You can share that moment with your teammates while giving an opponent space to be disappointed. After a loss, you do not have to pretend you feel fine. Take a breath, finish the post-match handshake, and find your coach.

Be useful in your teammate’s corner

Cheer without insulting the other team. Help a newer wrestler find the right mat. Pay attention when a teammate is competing—even when your own matches are finished. Small things make a long tournament day easier.

After a tough match, “I’m here” can help more than a breakdown of every mistake. Save technical feedback for the coach and a time when the wrestler is ready to hear it.

Carry it outside the gym

Thank the people running the tournament. Pick up around your team’s seats. Think before posting about an opponent online. Parents can help by keeping sideline comments respectful and giving athletes room to talk when they are ready.

The score records one match. How we treat people is something the Bruins can work on every day.